Good Black men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Most we can’t see because we don’t know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn’t flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lex. He might not have a “body like Arnold with a Denzel face”. But, as you mature, you’ll realize it’s better to find someone who’s got your back than someone who can turn your head. A good man doesn’t agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn’t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, yada yada he is he won’t have to because it shows. He has his own opinions and you may clash, but he doesn’t have to degrade you to prove he’s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same. A good man is not going to meet every item on your check list. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don’t live to “catch” him doing something wrong so you can declare, “Aha! I knew you were a dog!!” A good man doesn’t necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine’s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don’t judge him by TV standards. No one is living that fairy tale life for real. You’ll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It’s just not true. So please be patient. If a guy says hi or ask how you are, just politely respond doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to consistently talk to him. Just appreciate that someone is speaking to you and being genuine about it.
I didn’t write this, but I love it!
